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Burnout, Housewarmings, Control, and Housework

9 Oct


Burn Out

After two months of going at break neck speed in my personal life and my career, I just crashed on Monday.  I believe the term that is used is “burnout.”  On Tuesday, I made the decision to take a mental health day and get some rest.  I didn’t do much resting, but it felt good just be on pause for a minute.  Though that one day to gather my life was nice, I need a real vacation.  I work hard, but I don’t really play that hard anymore.  There are rewards to being driven, but the rewards are no fun if you are not enjoying them.  Starting next week, I am going back to participating in open mic nights, because that was really a good thing for me.  Hell, I may even throw in a night at Patty Boom Boom.


It’s housewarming time!!!!  I was waiting to throw my housewarming once I was finished with all the painting and minor repairs, but I want to really take my time painting and it just looks odd to have a housewarming 4 months after you have moved.  I am really excited to show off my new house, and it won’t be anything too formal nor will there be some kind of “theme” just food, wine, and friends.


As I mentioned before, I have been having a really stressful few weeks, and most of my stress comes from needed to control the “unknown variables” in my life.  The mailing of my lost debit card was one of those variables that drove me crazy last week.  I was all in a panic because I was worried something would happen to the mail that would alter the course of the card getting to me.  I spent five days with my stomach in knots excessively googling how long it actually took for a debit card to arrive.  I didn’t concentrate on much else because that is all I was focused on.  On Thursday, as predicted, the card was in the mail.  I spent four days of my life in a constant state of worry over something that was out of my control.  This is not the first time I have done this, I have a really bad habit of freaking out and getting all stressed out over nothing.  I am looking for a way to turn all of that worrisome energy into something positive.  I have talked about it before but I think yoga would be a good thing for me from a mental health perspective.


When I bought my house, I really didn’t think about the size of the home and how much more cleaning I would have to do.  Most days I do not get home until 6 and then I am cooking and trying to get The Goons off to bed.  This leaves very little time for through cleaning.  Sure, I am able to keep the kitchen and bathrooms clean, but now that my daughter is involved with activities on the weekend it is becoming hard to keep up with three floors of cleaning.  So this week, I hired a cleaning service to come twice a month for 2 hours each visit.  I wrestled with this for a long time because I didn’t want people to think I was being “bougie” or that I was too lazy to clean my own house.  The simple fact of the matter is, I am a busy lady and I need a little help around the house when it comes to keeping it straight.  Cleaning my son and daughter’s rooms are a task in themselves and laundry is it’s own all day task.  That being said, I don’t mind having some extra hands twice a month to help keep this place clean.


The Weekend

9 Sep

This weekend I started my very first DIY project: my front yard.  When I purchased the house the first thing I noticed was my grass, or the lack thereof.  There was a flowerbed already built in, but the lawn itself was really just neglected and is currently more dirt than grass.  You know I love to throw my cape on, so I am hellbent on growing this grass myself without using expensive measures such as sod.  But first, I tackled my naked flower bed:


Just leaves and dirt *sigh*

My first step was to get the ground leveled and remove the leaves and weeds from the bed.  My rake did a wonderful job of getting this done, and after a few passes I had a clear bed.  The next step was to add the top soil.  Now this is where I learned a lesson in buying top soil.  GET MORE THAN YOU NEED!  I really thought two bags would be more than enough. Uh no.  Two bags was really only enough for half of the bed and that wasn’t even enough to plant my larger mums.  So instead, I planted my smaller mums in the area that I only used two bags and next weekend I will get more top soil for my larger mums.  The reason I chose hardy mums (there is a difference) is that they will grow again next season because I don’t want to have to do this all over again.  I am thinking of adding some bushes as well, I just don’t know.  But for now, this is what I have:

flowerbedafterMy next task was my backyard.  Now, to me, your backyard should be an oasis and what I had when I purchased the house was a small jungle:


Yes, under all of that grass is an actual patio.  I needed that space cleared stat, because all I want to do is sit in my backyard with a fire pit and drink wine a la Waiting to Exhale.  A few days prior, I sprayed the entire patio down with RoundUp and on Saturday the weeds were more than dead, so I took my trimmer/edger and cleared the patio and all of the weeds that were around the bottom of the fence.  This is what followed:

backyardafter1 backyardafter2Nice right?  After I finished, I cracked open an Angry Orchard and basked in my yard work badassness.

Saturday, after getting all of my life because my Fios was finally installed I went to the Omega Psi Phi Fish Fry being held that weekend.  My commentary:

  1. The drink in the Welch’s grape juice bottle is not grape juice.  I repeat, the juice in the bottle is NOT grape juice.
  2. My eyes were happy
  3. The fish refreshed my life

This weekend was one filled with a lot of fun, as now my living room is looking more like a living room and less like a storage area.  I have finally unpacked a majority of the boxes and organized the things I want to take down to the storage part of my basement.  I am looking forward to doing more yard work as it felt kind of like running for me, calming.

Moving Recap

5 Sep

I just want to start this post off by saying, every muscle in my body hurts right now.  I am also happy that I bought this house because after moving all my stuff in I am going to die here because I don’t ever ever want to do that again.  Continue reading

Closing Time!!!

30 Aug


I woke up this morning and all I could think of was this clip.  It’s really happening.  Today at 9:30am, the closing documents will be signed and I will have my own home.  I have to go back to work after closing (sucks), but I brought plenty of tissues because I know I am going to cry like a baby.  You better believe when I get off I am headed to my house to roll around on the floor and yell “get off my property” to no one in particular.  Pictures will DEFINITELY follow!!!!


The Victory Lap: Final Walk Through

29 Aug

Today’s the day!!!  The sun is shining…the tank is clean….and Miss Page is going to the final walk through before closing tomorrow!


The walk through is a really important step in home buying because this is my time to go over my future abode with a fine tooth comb and make sure everything is to my liking.  The house I am buying was built in 1986, so I am taking my sweet time making sure everything is right.  My list of things to look for:

The Hot Water Heater

A hot water heater is expensive and it is inconvenient as hell to replace.  As I understand the hot water heater is a 12 year one with two years of use on it already so I am in good hands.  I am still going to look at it because, seeing is believing.


It rained here yesterday, so if there were any leaks I will get a chance to see.  I will also be on a ladder so I can get a close look at the ceiling for water spots.  I know it is going to sound silly, but I plan on putting water in the bathtub when I get there so I can check for leaking when the tub is full.  Inspection of the caulking around the tub will take place too.

Water Pressure

This is a big one.  When I finish a long day of work and battling the highway to get home, a hot shower is the icing on the cake of my day.  That being said, I will be checking that the shower goes full blast, the same goes for the kitchen and bathroom sinks.

The Floor

This will be my time to jump up and down like Chunky in every room.  For good measure I will be running up and down the stairs a few times to check for loose stairs.

The Half Completed Bathroom in the Basement

It appears that the previous owners were in the middle of adding a half bathroom to the basement.  At first I wanted to scrap that project and turn it into a booth to record my podcast, but I talked with the home inspector and the recommendation is that I finish the project, as  an extra bathroom with add more value to the house than a studio will.  The pipes and everything are there, I just need a toilet and sink.

The Electrical Outlets

I brought my phone charger with me so I can plug it up to every single outlet in that house.  I am checking for functionality AND hooker outlets (they are too loose).  There is nothing worse than not being about to plug your vacuum up to an outlet only to find out it won’t stay put.

The Appliances

What I am really concerned about is the dishwasher and refrigerator as they both cost an arm and a leg (in my opinion) to replace.  I would like to keep both at least for another 2 years.  Why?  Because I will officially be done with paying for daycare since The Boy will be in Kindergarten/1st grade during that time.  This will free up some extra money for appliance replacement and other DIY stuff.

It’s safe to say I am extra excited, and I want to give a HUGE thanks to all of my friends that supported me and kept me sane during this time.  All of the advice and encouragment is greatly appreciated.  The last 30 days or so have been an emotional minefield, and there were a lot of days I didn’t think I was going to be able to finish this process.  What I am more excited about is picking my kids up on Saturday and bringing them back to their new home.  I can’t wait to see their faces as they play in the backyard, something that they could not do in an apartment complex.



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