The holidays are here and I am FINALLY getting into the Christmas spirit! While I was drunk with Christmas spirit a week or so ago, I made a status about wanting to throw a Christmas party and forgot all about it. That was until J called me at work and asked what was up with the party on Saturday. So on Saturday, J and I are throwing our first ever Christmas party. Thoughtful man he his, the first question out of his mouth was, “Do you want me to call the house cleaning service?” Uh, does a bear shit in the woods? Continue reading
It looks like the Diva’s Half won’t be happening for me. The race is early Saturday morning, and my sitter canceled on me this morning.
This is the caveat of being a single parent runner. I am restricted to the deadmill to train because, I don’t have someone to watch my kids three times a week so I can get in a good outdoor run. My gym has a daycare so that is my only real child care option when it comes to running. I crave running with my local running group outside, but I don’t think that will ever happen because I have two children who are both too old for jogging strollers, but too young to keep up with me on a 3-5 mile run. Hiring a sitter just so I can run or participate in races is an extra cost I don’t want to incur. I want to hear from some other single parent runners. How are you making it work?
- Single Parent Strategies (omtimes.com)
This weekend was such a busy one that I am DRAGGING this morning. I am preparing to send The Girl to my mom’s house for the summer and it has been a chore packing all weekend.
House buying is giving me my first gray hairs. Wait, let me correct that statement….finding a house is going to give me my first gray hairs. My goal is to stay in the PWC area, but I am having a hard time figuring out what part I want to live in. I found some really nice houses, but they are in an area that people say isn’t so great, but I haven’t heard anything personally. The hardest part about this is finding the right fit. I have a top five list, but the ONLY problem with the number one is that the master bedroom is teeny. The flip side of that is that they basement is finished with a full bathroom and fireplace, so there is the potential to make that my bedroom. Who knows, but I need to go ahead and make moves because I want to do this before school starts again.
The relations between The Boy and The Girl are getting so much easier as they are getting older. In the morning, my son looks for his sister before me when he wakes up. Can I express how long I have waited for the day I would not be his only friend in the world? That is a lot of pressure, lol. This weekend, since there wasn’t a father around per se for us to celebrate, the kids and I headed to our favorite place, Tyson’s Corner for a little shopping and lunch at Legal Seafood. This was my first time ever going to Legal, and I had the spicy fish and chips with the Strawberry sangria. My verdict, the sangria was dope, but the fish and chips were too spicy, so next time, no spice. There were some AMAZING sales at Old Navy, and I stocked my closet with TONS of dresses.
As I said last Father’s Day, I didn’t expect any shout outs as I am not a dad. However, I noticed something yesterday that was kind of troubling to me. People made it their business to let the world of single motherdom know that we were all Bitter Bettys with poor choices in men. Listen, I think the only people that should comment on the single parent struggle are those who were raised by or are single parents themselves. Though I didn’t want to be celebrated on Father’s day, that doesn’t mean that other single mothers don’t have the right to. Yes, this is a man’s day, but are you really congratulating men who haven’t seen their kids in ages? Men who owe a years salary in child support? The same way people were encouraging men to “take their day back,” should use that same energy to encourage the men who don’t participate in their kids life to do so. Or even better yet, mind your damn business. Look how easy that was.
- Father’s Day – the new Single Mother’s Day? (dallasbelle.com)
- Gonna Get Real: Fathers Day and the single mother (singlemommalosingit.wordpress.com)
- Lets not forget our Single Mothers…Happy Father’s day (trueyarnz.wordpress.com)
- Race Matters: Is This “Mahogany” Brand Father’s Day Card For Single Mothers Insulting To The Black Community? (bossip.com)
I got a kick out of this over at Mom Solo, a blog written by a single mother who is one by choice. I didn’t sign up for single motherhood per se, but I’m here in it, and I found this post very telling.
For a long time I was embarrassed to be a single mother. With my daughter, I always made sure to chime in that “I was with her father for years!” Maybe if I threw that out I wouldn’t be judged. The second time around I was married, and when my marriage went south and we divorced, I was faced with stigma of being a single mom, with two kids, with…..different dads. So with my son, I find myself making sure I mention his dad was my “ex-husband, ” so people will not think badly of me. I carried this on for a while, even gaining a fictitious husband when I moved to DC. I am learning that this type of lie is another part of “mommy guilt.” I felt guilty because I didn’t stay with the father’s of my children, therefore not giving them a traditional family (whatever that is now days). I am letting go of that guilt slowly, but surely. My marital status is not a direct indicator of what kind of mother I am or what kind of person I am.
- First Lady Refers to Herself as a Single Mother (politicalwire.com)
- On Not Being a Single Mother (mybetamom.wordpress.com)
- The Single Mother’s Survival Guide. (uggggh.wordpress.com)
- Celebrities and Sippy Cups Poppy Montgomery Talks about Mommy Guilt (everydayfamily.com)
- Musings of a Single Mother (biodunsamueladepetu.wordpress.com)